Living by Grace

Dedicated to providing guidance in daily living through the power of God's grace as experienced in our union with Christ.


Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery … lewdness … hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, … drunkenness … and the like …     Galatians 5:19-21a

Paul’s addition of the words “and the like” indicates there are many works of the flesh he could have added.

One work of the flesh that can be added is “self-pity.” We feel sorry for ourselves when we conclude that our difficult circumstances come either from an uncaring God or someone with evil intention toward us.

Self-pity is a robber. It robs us of love because we see others as evil toward us. We cannot see the needs of others because we are consumed with ourselves.

Self-pity robs us of joy. We fail to see the “good” in our uncomfortable circumstances.

Self-pity robs us of inner peace. We complain about our uncomfortable circumstances and those who create them. We would defeat, rather than love, those who create them.

What can believers do when they realize they have a problem with self-pity?

They can begin by believing they are in the hands of God and by understanding all things come from God’s loving heart—and for their own good. They can begin to give thanks for all things.

Believers can confess that self-pity comes from their flesh. They can experience the crucifixion of their flesh and their self-pity by obeying the five commands of Romans 6:11-13.

They will be filled with the Holy Spirit—and with love, joy, and peace.

The Fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace …    Ephesians 5:22