Living by Grace

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Grieving or Blessing Our Comforter

And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.    Ephesians 4:30

But the Comforter, which is the Holy Ghost, whom the Father will send in my name …   John 14:26 (KJV)

Being our “Comforter” is one of the many ways the Holy Spirit blesses believers.

Examples of His comforting ministry are His revelations of new and helpful truths about God the Father and God the Son, and giving guidance and inner peace in our times of confusion and emotional upheaval.

Yet, Paul exhorts us not to “grieve” our Comforter—indicating that we can and do grieve Him. Even the thought of our grieving our gentle and loving Comforter is a grief to us.

How do we grieve our Comforter?

The command not to grieve Him is in a lengthy passage in which Paul exhorts us to put off the old man and put on the new man. He lists numerous expressions of both our old man and our new man.

Some of the expressions of our old man Paul mentions are lying, stealing, bitterness, wrath, anger, and loud and evil speaking.

Some features of our new man Paul says we should put on are speaking the truth, righteous indignation, working with our hands so that we may be able to give to others, and being kind, tenderhearted, and forgiving.

Looking at the broader passage as a whole, it can be said that we grieve our Comforter when our lives are an expression of our old man and not our new man. But our lives are a blessing and joy to our Comforter when they are an expression of our new man.

As we experience our crucifixion, burial, and resurrection, we both put off our old man and put on our new man.

In doing so, we do not grieve our Comforter, but we bring Him blessing and joyfulness.